You make too many rash decisions said my friends and family. Where did this come from? You see, I live life on my(and God) own terms(this may unfortunately have to be adjusted when I find mr right :)). I understand the definition of rash decisions, tends to have a negative connotation to it. Nonetheless, I feel it has provided me with much clarity as the years go by. Even if I am as happy as I can be, If my spirit tells me I need to be somewhere else, I listen. I use to question myself so much about certain decisions then, I decided to let my gut feeling be the deciding factor. It's ok to just do it. Don't think about the consequences, plan accordingly and focus on the outcome. Ok, back to my rash decisions. Where did it come from? It was second semester, my freshman year at the University of Houston(UofH). I woke up one morning and told my friends I would no longer be attending UofH. What was my reasoning they asked? To be honest, I did not have a reason. I just knew I was not suppose to be there. I needed to be elsewhere. So I decided to complete my semester, go back home to Dallas and figure out where I needed to be. Fast forward 6 years later, I am back in Dallas, still trying to figure out where I need/want to be. Sounds crazy right? I can hear a few I told you so. Furthermore, I believe my rash decisions are all part of this journey of me trying to find my legend. Some people say, you sound like someone who is lost. To be honest, I have no qualms in being lost. The beauty of being lost lies in the journey of finding oneself. In this journey so far, I have built relationships, traveled to places I never expected to, gained professional experiences to help advance my career, loved, cried, and most importantly laughed.
With that said, If you feel as though, making rash decisions makes you unstable, I urge you to rethink this. There's actually a bit of excitement in figuring out your next steps. For example, when I decided to move to DC from Boston, I didn't know where I would stay. I knew no one in DC. Lets just say, I had a few lows. A few days before my move, I found a place and made DC my space. One I enjoyed a lot. It was like a rollercoaster that experience. Have you ever ridden the Titan at Six Flags? It takes you up slowly with your heart beating as fast as possible, then drops you down so fast you least expected but yet, you feel a sigh of relief? That's exactly how I felt. Before I proceed, quick disclaimer. There is absolutely nothing wrong in staying in one place. Maybe your legend is in that place. Maybe you were lost in that place and found yourself there. Maybe you hate the rollercoaster feeling. Nonetheless, it is ok to venture out. Quit that job that may earn you an income, but may not be where you see yourself or where your happiness lies. Talk to someone you never expected to converse with. Breathe new air as in, leave your comfort zone and even if it's the closest city, drive there and breathe that air(yes, yes, I know it's all the same but you will be shocked to feel the excitement of being in a new environment). Last but not least, plan. It would be silly of me to tell you to make rash decisions without actually considering the outcome. When a Nomad travels in the desert, he may not know the direction he is heading to, but he knows what he is in search of. I am all about "free yourself" but I also know the realities of life. I know the financial struggles people face. With that said, I know what I want my professional outcome in life to be. In order to get there, I have to open myself to all possibilities. Limiting myself prevents me from achieving my outcome. In the process of attaining said outcome, I have the privilege of finding my Legend(read The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho).
What is your outcome? Are you limiting yourself? Have you opened yourself up to all possibilities? When was the last time you made a rash decision? Have you made one recently? How did it feel? Remember, as hard as it was, I gave my two weeks notice. Every experience is a lesson preparing you for the next step.