As September the 12th passed me by, I began thinking about how the day was spent. Was it special? Did I get all my hearts desires? To answer that question, Yes I did. As my friend Lebsia and I were driving back from New Orleans heading to Houston, while jamming to the beautiful Corinne Bailey Rae, I started reflecting on the day gone by. What was the highlight of the day? Well, I woke up breathing and smiling to see another birthday. I used to dwell on the floods of birthday wishes from strangers, acquaintances, friends and families. I would make sure the world knew it was my birthday even before my birthday came around. I would share the date on social media sites just to get that blank fulfillment of seeing HBDs flood your Facebook page from people you barely speak to. It made me content? I was cool enough to be wished happy birthday. This was the yearly routine. Counting how many wishes you got. Quantity over quality.
He told me, I don't share my birthday socially because, only those who deem me important, will wish me happy birthday. They will remember the day that your mother labored for hours just to give you life. They will tell you how important you are to them and wish you nothing but the best. At that moment, I realized I had been acknowledging the wrong things in life. Seeking validation and praises from the wrong people. I needed to be reminded of those who genuinely care. Sometimes we get caught up with knowing and having so many people around us, that we forget to acknowledge the important people in our lives. We forget to know those who considers us special enough to be locked in that good circle. You know, the framily circle. Well, things had to change. I took my birthdays off social media sites and only shared thank yous after the day had passed. Now, there will be important people in your life who will forget your birthday because life takes over their mind. It's inevitable. Yet, it doesn't reduce the amount of love and care they feel for you. People just forget. With that said, this year was just perfect. The people I expected to hear from, did not disappoint. They reminded me of how much they cared and appreciated me. They made me feel special on my birthday. I confirmed my position in their lives. I confirmed my importance in their lives. As I begin my journey as an oldie :). I am glad to embark on this journey with my beautiful family and friends whom I love and care much for.
Thank you all for being great!
He told me, I don't share my birthday socially because, only those who deem me important, will wish me happy birthday. They will remember the day that your mother labored for hours just to give you life. They will tell you how important you are to them and wish you nothing but the best. At that moment, I realized I had been acknowledging the wrong things in life. Seeking validation and praises from the wrong people. I needed to be reminded of those who genuinely care. Sometimes we get caught up with knowing and having so many people around us, that we forget to acknowledge the important people in our lives. We forget to know those who considers us special enough to be locked in that good circle. You know, the framily circle. Well, things had to change. I took my birthdays off social media sites and only shared thank yous after the day had passed. Now, there will be important people in your life who will forget your birthday because life takes over their mind. It's inevitable. Yet, it doesn't reduce the amount of love and care they feel for you. People just forget. With that said, this year was just perfect. The people I expected to hear from, did not disappoint. They reminded me of how much they cared and appreciated me. They made me feel special on my birthday. I confirmed my position in their lives. I confirmed my importance in their lives. As I begin my journey as an oldie :). I am glad to embark on this journey with my beautiful family and friends whom I love and care much for.
Thank you all for being great!
Xoxo
Kesh
Kesh